We are not just one self but many fragments, each representing a year of our life. Picture these fragments as pieces of a crystal. Ideally, the crystal is clear and reflects vibrant colors, but trauma clouds its brilliance. This cloudiness can start as early as birth, with challenges like difficult pregnancies or early childhood experiences causing shadows in the crystal.
Up until about age six, most children still hold a desire to shine brightly, with their inner light pushing back against the clouds. But as we grow older, we develop more complex emotions, and the clouds begin to accumulate. By the time we reach puberty, our spark may dim, and we often allow the clouds to settle. Our ego, which once sought to protect us from physical harm, now becomes a gatekeeper of social survival. It tries to protect us from emotional pain by blocking out uncomfortable memories, which is why some people may find it hard to recall parts of their childhood.
Inner child healing involves clearing the clouds, fragment by fragment, transmuting the murkiness of trauma into something beautiful. Through gentle self-compassion, we can begin to reprogram the ego’s outdated operating system, which has been running on survival mode for far too long. The goal isn’t to erase trauma but to transform it. Just like light shining through a crystal with imperfections can still create beautiful rainbows, healing turns past pain into empathy, wisdom, and strength.
By taking this journey inward, you not only heal yourself but also break the toxic cycles that affect future generations. Shining light on your inner child brings clarity and restores the brilliance that has always been within you.
